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Time to spoil your man
Long-distance relationships are a lot of things, but fun is not one of them. There is a lot you can do to make the most of the situation for a healthy and happy relationship. One of these things is continually giving LDR gifts to your boyfriend.
In my opinion, care packages are the most fun and thoughtful way to do it.
If you have no idea where to start, you have come to the right place. Below are ten care package ideas for your long-distance boyfriend that he will love.
A set of his favorite books/movies/games
This long-distance relationship care package idea is perhaps the easiest to execute, especially if you know him well enough to identify his favorites. It could be a set from a movie franchise, a book trilogy he is obsessed with, or a bunch of video games. It could also be a random collection of unrelated pieces that he loves.
What to put in it:
Food (honestly, you can never go wrong with it)
Men love food, end of the story. So if you find yourself stumped by what stuff to put into that care package, then just go with food.
The best part is that these days, there are many companies with lots of food options that can be delivered to your LDR beau’s doorstep. That way, you don’t have to worry about it getting spoiled on the commute over to his house.
What to put in it:
A hair and beard grooming kit
It is more of a practical than a sweet gift and is what makes it such a great long-distance care package idea. Whether or not your man is observing Movember (the no shave November trend), he will appreciate that you care enough about his grooming to be involved.
What to put in it:
A collection of personal keepsakes
Sometimes with these packages, less is more. So maybe consider taking the more sentimental route rather than, the flashier displays. It could be a bunch of your t-shirts that have your scent on them. You could send a photo album with a collection of memories you have shared over the years. It can be anything really that you know will make him think of you.
What to put in it:
A hangover recovery package
One of the secrets to success in a long-distance relationship is having healthy, independent social lives. So you need to be ok with your man going out with his buddies now and then.
As an awesome girlfriend, you can take this to the next level and send him a hangover recovery package when you know he is in for a particularly wild night.
What to put in it:
A set of menswear essentials
We are not talking about getting him an entire outfit or anything, unless, of course, you know he would love it. This package should be more focused on smaller accessories that you know he will use in his daily life.
What to put in it:
A get well soon package
If your boyfriend is feeling a little under the weather, this is the perfect LDR care package for him. The best thing to do is to outsource and have it delivered from a care package company near him. That way, if you decide to include perishables like soup or sensitive items like medicine, you won’t have any challenges.
What to put in it:
Get to prepping, girl!
With all these long-distance care package ideas, your boyfriend will feel loved and cared about. You could DIY it and get it shipped, or get it from an online catalog for convenience. Either way, it is the thought that matters and is a great way to bring you closer despite the distance.
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Long-distance relationships are a whole entity on their own when it comes to love and romance. Couples in these types of setups face unique challenges that continuously threaten to ruin the bonds they work so hard to build. If you are in an LDR, then you know what I am talking about.
From time and schedule conflicts to trust issues, here is more on why long-distance relationships don’t often work out. That way, if you are currently in one or considering entering one you know exactly what signs to pay attention to.
9 LDR pitfalls to look out for
Poor quality and quantity of communication
Without contest, poor communication takes the number one spot as the reason why long-distance relationships do not work out. That goes for both quality and quantity.
With the former, your conversations tend to be very unproductive. Maybe you argue too much. Maybe one or both of you hold back on expressing real emotions.
With quantity, on the other hand, it is an issue of not spending enough time talking. It could be intentional as you feel the routine is monotonous and burdening. But in some cases, it is purely out of your control whether it be time zone differences or schedule conflicts.
Monotonous date ideas
The whole movie marathon while on a live video call as a date thing is quite honestly overplayed. There is so much more you can do together as a couple despite the distance. To prevent this monotony from ruining your relationship, here are a few virtual date ideas and games you could try:
Speaking of friends and family, they may be another reason why do long-distance relationships fail. That is particularly the case when they are openly against the setup or the choice of your partner. The lack of support will weigh down on both of you and make you more and more detached. Sometimes you may need to cut ties with your family to live a healthy life and relationship.
If you genuinely believe in your love and want to fight for it then surround yourself with people who support the relationship. This positive energy will go a long way towards keeping you sane through the tough times until you are together at last.
Lack of personal growth and interests
If you are not working on yourself as an individual in a long-distance relationship, it will most likely fail. It is because the lack of positive distraction leaves you with all the time in the world to obsess over simple things in the relationship. Instead of devoting your entire life to dissecting the relationship, why not try personal growth by:
Insecurities and lack of trust
When you are away from each other, then there is no way to find out what your partner is doing alone. It is a perfect medium for mistrust and insecurities to thrive. Maybe he missed a call at night, and you think he was with someone else. It could be her detached attitude makes you suspect she is not all in anymore.
These insecurities turn toxic fast and will ruin your relationship in a heartbeat. The best way to salvage the situation is simply through communication. Let your beau know what you feel and have them reassure you. Keeping it to yourself really won’t help.
Unfortunately, cheating does happen with long-distance relationships. Again, it is an issue of lack of supervision. Unfaithful partners take advantage of this to hide their indiscretions. When you find out for sure that they are cheating, it is entirely up to you to decide what to do.
Leaving would be the best choice as it is highly likely that with the maintained distance, the cheating may occur again. However, if you choose to stay, you need to take significant steps to ensure that it doesn’t happen again.
LDRs are expensive
Long-distance relationships do not come cheap. Sometimes, the weight of this financial burden takes a toll on the relationship leading to serious problems. From plane tickets and long-distance call rates to gift deliveries, the charges are more or less inevitable.
However, there are ways to ensure that green paper is not what comes between you and true love. Some great solutions here include:
The death of your sex life
Intimacy takes a huge hit in relationships where distance is a significant factor. If you both value sex and physical intimacy and are not willing to wait, you will have to find alternatives. Talk about options like toys, virtual sex, and raunchy texts to keep things interesting. Planning your visits in close succession may also help a lot.
Lack of a definitive finish line
A huge percentage of long-distance relationships that work owe their success to having an end goal in mind. It could be that you plan on moving somewhere new together or maybe the traveling partner will settle down for a career closer home. Not having this goal in mind will leave you miserable and fosters hopelessness which in turn makes you not interested enough to make things work.
With this information, you have all the ammo to fight and win the battle for your love. Yeah, that’s a bit dramatic but so are LDRs in general. The important thing is to communicate, work on yourself, and actively work towards moving your relationship forward.
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I do! Now see you later!
Being in a long-distance marriage is a unique experience. You might have thought your long-distance fling was hard, but this is a whole other ballpark. What makes it hard is also what makes it bearable, and this is the fact that you have both agreed to a long-term commitment.
So how do you make it work?
How to ensure the distance does not sow weakness in what you both have worked so hard to build?
Here are a few tips that could come in handy whether you are dating a foreigner and want to marry him, or one of you frequently travels for work.
How to make it work
Find ways to communicate
Communication is the surest way to ensure that your bond remains strong despite the unique challenges. Talk as often as you can. It could be anything from a sweet message in the middle of their day to a routine evening check-in phone call.
With a long-distance marriage, it is particularly important to switch things up in terms of the modes used to keep things interesting.
Some of your options here include:
Be open about your expectations
Just because you are married doesn’t mean that all your needs and expectations have been met. It is essentially a relationship just like any other. As such, you are entitled your needs, and you should make them very clear to each other.
It could be that you still want to have virtual romantic dates despite the distance. Maybe you want your intimate life to be a bigger priority. Be open about it all, and that way, you will not end up disappointed.
Keep the romance alive
One of the biggest causes of long-distance marriage divorce is a lack of romance. It, in turn, weakens the bond you already have and provides a platform for destructive negative thoughts to thrive. So how do you keep things hot and romantic in a long-distance marriage?
Make your insecurities known
Long-distance relationships work when they are built and maintained on trust; more so in the marriage setup. If for any reason you have trust issues, then you need to air them as soon as possible. That allows your partner to address them and make any necessary changes to make you feel more secure.
Don’t stop dating each other
Another one of the most common long-distance marriage problems is the neglect of an active dating life. Being married doesn’t mean you stop trying. Go out on dates and make new memories together, and your relationship will thank you for it.
You are probably wondering to yourself how exactly you will do this given the hundreds or even thousands of miles between you two. Good news – there are very many LDR date ideas for you to try out. Here are a few of the most fun and easiest to execute.
Visit each other as much as possible
The value of spending quality physical time as a married couple in this type of setup cannot be emphasized enough. If one or both of you regularly commute for work, then you need to find a way to make time for each other. Get vacation days. Postpone meetings. Do whatever it takes to get that time.
If it is a case of marriage to a foreigner or someone from a different part of the country, then plan as many visits back and forth as possible. The physical proximity to each other makes a world of difference.
Take advantage of technology
Another tip on how to make a long-distance marriage work is by using available tech. These days, there is an app for everything. These range from messaging apps to apps that help you keep track of each other’s day. Here are some awesome ones worth checking out.
Work intentionally towards a common goal
Finally, if you want to figure out how to survive a long-distance marriage, then you need to have an end goal in mind. Is one of you going to have to move? Will someone have to have a career change? Talk about this and figure out the way forward, and it will help give you both peace of mind.
Being in a long-distance relationship is like having another full-time job. It is like a delicate plant that needs some extra tender love and care from both you and your partner.
One of the best ways to ensure that it just doesn’t wilt and die is to ask the right questions. That will allow you to get what your partner is thinking or feeling, express yourself, and run any necessary diagnostics on your relationship.
To help you out a little, here are ten fundamental long-distance relationship questions that you and your beaux should answer to help you learn about yourselves.
Are we exclusive?
It is vital to ask this particular question, especially as you are starting your relationship. Given the distance and the fact that you cannot keep constant tabs on your partner, you cannot afford to make any assumptions. Ensure that you are both on the same page as far as exclusivity is concerned to prevent anyone from getting hurt.
What makes you happy in life?
You cannot be the only source of joy and fulfillment in your partner’s life, considering that you are so far away. And he or she cannot do that for you.
Finding out what makes both of you happy in addition to being together is therefore very important. It allows you to narrow down on activities that could help you get through the hard times in an LDR (long-distance relationship). It could be anything from a hobby to a foundation they are passionate about.
What are your individual goals?
What do you both hope to achieve for yourselves? It could be career-wise, socially, or even spiritually. It is essential to ask this question to assess how well you both fit into each other’s long term goals. Is there anything you can do to help? Do your visions complement each other or clash? Trust me; this will save you a heck of a lot of trouble down the line.
Do you fully trust me?
That is one of the most critical long-distance relationship questions as trust is what these setups survive on. You need to trust that the love is still strong. You need to believe that there is faithfulness and loyalty. Finding out whether there are any trust issues or insecurities allows you to both adjust appropriately to make each other comfortable.
What can we do to draw us closer to each other?
You need to find ways to bridge the physical and emotional gaps that are inevitable with long-distance relationships. Every couple has their way of doing this. It could be that you want to plan more physical meetups. In this case, you will need to figure out logistics in terms of finances and scheduling. It could be something more straightforward, like talking more, meditating, or even therapy. Whatever the case, you need to be continually finding new habits to bond and strengthen your relationship.
What are we doing next date night?
Just because you are hundreds of miles apart, it doesn’t mean that you will not go out on dates anymore. If anything, they are more relevant to you and your partner than they would be to couples who live near each other. Answer this question by setting plans on things that you will do together while you are apart, so you have a running program to bring you closer. It could be anything from a movie marathon to a fun wine date over a video call.
How do you deal with missing me?
It gives you an idea of how well the two of you are coping with the distance. If it is something unhealthy like binge drinking or wallowing, asking this question allows you to shed light on the problem. You can then come up with creative alternatives that will enable you to both get through the rough patches.
Do your friends and family support us?
It is vital to have support outside the relationship if it is to work out. With long-distance relationships, in particular, having a great group of friends and close family around will help you adapt better. You will not have to worry about being lonely as you are surrounded by people who love you and are rooting for the relationship.
What don’t you like about me/this relationship?
This question allows you to fix any issues in the relationship that could spell doom for it. Maybe she doesn’t like how you ignore her texts. Or it could be that he is not comfortable with how few your physical visits are. Air these issues out and find solutions that work for you both.
What is our end game?
Where is the relationship going? What are your goals as a couple? It is crucial, especially if both of you are serious about making it last. As you discuss this, also make sure to have timelines and specific plans on what you intend for the relationship.
Asking and getting answers to long-distance relationship questions will offer you much-needed insight to make the most of your relationship. So ask. And listen to the answers carefully. That way, if there are any cracks in the foundation, then you can get to work on them before it is too late. And if everything is okay, you can prevent any destructive issues from cropping up in the future.
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Have you ever had that “I miss my boyfriend so bad it physically hurts” wave of emotions? You would give up anything to have them there with you even just for a minute. Anything to hear their voice, to feel their warm hugs, and to spend time with them.
These overwhelming emotions come with the territory if you enter a long distance relationship. And the feelings can sometimes get so bad you end up completely unproductive.
Here are a few tips and tricks to help you cope with the overwhelming feelings of loneliness and get through the darker days.
Sometimes, all it takes is hearing the voice of the one you love to cure the LDR blues. Make a voice call and listen to him as he talks about work or his day. Set up a video chat and take in his gorgeousness as he goes on and on about his buddy Jim. That is guaranteed to make you feel better.
Ask him to send a picture
Another way to get over missing him is by getting a photo of his current activity. It could be anything from a mirror selfie at the gym or a picture of what he is having for dinner. That will help make you feel connected to him and like you are right there as he goes about his errands.
Get a hobby
What is possibly the best solution when it comes to figuring out what to do when you miss your boyfriend is getting a hobby.
Having a hobby will give you an outlet for all your frustrations. It will also allow you to make good use of your spare time. That way, you are not idle enough to obsess over how much you miss him.
Some activities you could do are:
Spend time with your friends or family
This activity allows you to surround yourself with people who love you just as your boyfriend does. It is usually enough to trick your brain into believing it is getting what it so desperately craves. So plan a dinner date with your parents or go shopping with your girls. It will help a lot.
Consider getting a roommate
You can also cure the loneliness by ensuring that there is always someone around when you get home. Having a roommate means you will have someone to talk to and hang out with so that you’re not alone all the time. You could also use the extra cash to get a ticket to see your beau. Win-win.
… or get a pet
If getting a roommate is not your style or is not an option, then consider getting a pet. It will also help minimize the loneliness by giving you access to another living being at home. Your furry little buddy might not talk back, but it is better than talking to yourself.
Plan your next date or meetup
You can also cure your beau blues by planning your next hangout. It could be a scheduled virtual online date where you get to play a game or watch a movie. It could also be an actual physical meetup where one of you visits the other. This planning will get you excited to spend time with him and will help you forget how bad you feel.
Keep yourself busy
An idle mind is the devil’s playground, so keep yourself busy! In addition to the hobbies and new skills you could learn, here are a few day-to-day activities you could try out.
• Take a walk
“I miss him so much.” These are words you will never stop saying until you are in a long distance relationship. However, with all the tips and tricks above, you should be able to pull yourself out of the depressing darkness.
The key thing is to keep yourself busy and to learn how to appreciate all that you already have. Then remember that it is not permanent. Eventually, you will be together, and you will never have to say goodbye. Other than every morning when you both leave for work!
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